man is not important

 Why does man think, he is so important that everything that happens on this earth and in this universe has “him” in the center.

From all the evidences and from everything that has happened and happens, one can very clearly see that man is not important. Not just man, no life, nothing on this planet is as important as the man thinks it is.

Whenever anything happens, man blames god, or seeks his help. Why? After all, probably God may just be "man's" own creation! 

You are not important. If anything happens to you, good or bad, it’s because of your will power. So it is you who is important to yourself, and it is you who keeps proving this to yourself. I don’t see anyone or anything else helping you prove this fact that you are important.

This life, this body, this intellect that one has, is not because God was too graceful to grant you with extra mind and skills to survive. It is just a part of evolution. Even if someone starts to explain about the existence of higher realm in the form of extraterrestrials or higher dimensions, I don’t have any interest in believing that it is for or due to us. They are just like us, if they are. 

You are not important. Just like any other solar system or planet which may or may not have life. It is all one and the same.

I know, man is a curious being. But man is not everything and the universe doesn't revolve around him. I just want to request people who try to search any kind of truth, to please seclude yourself from everything around and then make your searches in an unbiased manner. You may find better facts!

My New Life!

Here I want to share my new life experience:

I was a software engineer and was dreaming of a full fledged career, when I realized that I was not the only one who had control over my life.
It was my mom, designing and deciding what am I gonna do next. Well! so months after months and weeks after weeks, that passed, carried the air of my upcoming life.
Parents found a match for me and I got married.
I never really understood that my whole dream of free and independent life was to be shared with someone, on whom I was going to depend for the rest of my life. Why I say "depend" is because, after marriage I came to a different country(where obviously I wanted to come but through my own efforts), and with that came different forms of dependencies.
Now to explain what those dependencies are/were will need me to explain the nature and position of my husband, and it will be quite a long topic to be discussed. Since I am not going into details right now, I can at least give you the glimpse. My  husband is a loving, protective, fearful and a busy person.
Since in a new country with a new visa status and a lot of new changes including my identity, I became dependent on him. Dependent to him to the extent that even to buy my sandwich I had to look up to him, (because I didn't owned my credit card, and people don't use cash here (its archaic)!)

For continuous six months, I struggled to accept the new reality. Albeit, my mom might have explained to me that realities change after marriage, I was not taking it easily. I was scared, and thrown aback with everything that came my way, and I became irritable. I lost interest in writing, reading, exploring, doing anything which was new( Before marriage these were my favorite past times). And I also grew in weight!!!!! :(

I was trying to cope with situations and to build new relationships. Although all my new relationships tried best to make me overcome, but I felt that no one understood. You might think: "didn't my husband understand?"
Well, we always struggled to spend time together. As much as he wanted to be with me, our marriage had eaten up all his vacations and he had to work extra hours to compensate.

Actually there is one more thing. Since after marriage I was to come to a place where none of my relatives were around, so we didn't really plan for a honeymoon. Because we thought that the whole point of honey moon is to spend time together, and be away from family, which we already were! But this idea didn't work, because for a situation which could be a honeymoon, needs the couple to spend "time" together. And "TIME" was the only thing we didn't have.

(You know what! I used to think, "what do one needs to know in a person", if he is good, which you can find out in a few talks, that's all is enough. But now I can understand, why people go for a love marriages. Because then they know each other pretty well, and already have glimpses for changes.. so they are not taken aback. I don't say that I regret getting my marriage arranged by parents, cuz  in my case we will be busy for a longer time in understanding each other and will have a fresh marriage for longer time which is a good thing.)

Anyways, after these initial months, though I still don't understand him and I don't think he does understand me completely, but I realize"What the heck, we have the whole life left to do this, and we'll keep doing it, we'll fight and come to conclusions and then one day we'll realize that we have become best friends".

Initial period of not just marriage, but of anything, which needs changes and is new, needs effort and time.Getting irritated from time to time is a natural thing for a human being. But coping with all of those and coming out with flying colors is life.

I am still trying reach a peaceful state, and like you can see, I have started writing, so I think I am getting back to where I want to reach.

People around me have tried to help me, and I will always be grateful to them for helping me out. But now I understand this more deeply:

A word of advice: Don't loose faith when you think its a new/hostile situation and you cannot get rid. Actually you can and you will, just be persistent.

Bad times go away as soon as good times.

Race, but with yourself..

When we grow older, we learn that it is important to respect ourselves, and try not to mimic others.

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When we are young, our parents, in almost all families, ask us to look at others like a neighbour’s son, a cousin, or an acquaintance and behave and become like them. We grow up thinking we need to become like others. And the whole life we spend doing that. We learn that our self, and we teach the same to our children. But don’t you think doing that, clearly disrespects God’s creation?

Everyone in this world is made unique, not for the purpose of becoming like others and imitating them. We are made unique, because we all have the potential to become the one that we all seek to become. But what we are taught when we are young, makes us crib for it our whole life, and waste life, in becoming like "them".

We don't need to become like others. Cultures which had set traditions, they had done so to maintain peace (peace brings happiness ) in the communities. But today, we have become smart enough to understand where our boundaries lie(because we have enough means to understand the lives and limitations of others). Our boundary lies only in one fact that we cannot make others as well ourselves  unhappy. Rest all which happens in this world, all the rules that are set, are only set to make this motive accomplish. World peace, territory boundaries, terrorism, everyone who deals with these heavy topics have the same motto, to make people happy. But we don't generally do so. Gradually everything becomes complicated, because everyone deviates from their line of action(reason being that human mind wants to compete).

Life is easy, if just for once, you could keep the jealousy and the race to become like others aside. 

I am saying this because I have felt it personally. 

I often say I am quite saintly, often I think in a way which does not relate to world affairs, yet I am living in this world. Being saintly and having different line of thought, I am also often discarded from the world. When I was small, my mother once asked me to imagine what would happen if my fellow classmate and a friend of mine will score much more than I will do. She thought that imagining it, the jealousy that I will feel, will help me score more than him. I told my mother that I don't feel anything even if he scores more. My mother was terribly hurt that day, and she thought I would never do anything in my life. She thought that I do not have this competitiveness in me. When at the age of 9-10 I tried to explain to her, that I must compete with myself, and not others, she said I did not had the right to explain things to her cuz I was not as experienced. 

After that day, this incident often realized in front of me. I often fell in situations where I really had to decide and feel the "jealousy", and to my surprise, I have never felt it yet. I donno is it due to my "competitive-lessness", or its due to any other reason which I could call as "wisdom". I concede to the fact that I have never excelled in everything I have done, the reason could very well be the lack of jealousy and competitiveness in my being. Whether you call it my excuse but I say that I have not excelled in those things because I never have liked them in order to break boundaries and work for that particular things. 

But excelling in a thing could also differ depending on different perspectives. I wont go there, cuz, that's absolutely different topic to be talked about.

What I want to convey is, it is true and correct to be competitive, but if you could do that with yourself, life will become much more easy. Everyone will be at peace in their minds. These anger, stresses and feelings of loathes will expurgate from all minds and life will become easy to lead, which is what all of us seek. 

We dont need to worry about how world will run, we only need to run ourselves flawlessly, and if we cant, we could at least try, cuz who knows, after a few generations possibly we could attain "RAM RAJ" the perfect world that we all seek.

I am not here to preach, but this is what I deeply feel. If anyone has the hesitation and starts thinking about the repercussions, I assure u that it is tough in the beginning, but it is where you will find your solace, and life will definitely become easy.
It is my personal experience.

Respect yourself. Be the way you are. Identify what you like and what you want to be like(not like others but the unique one like yourself. It is possible). There's nothing wrong with you or what you do, cuz after you are dead nothing matters, and until you are living you can make things "matter" what you want to make "matter".

goal of life!

I spend a lot of time thinking about life and its goals.
I met someone once.
I met him through internet.
The effect that he had on me,
I think its gonna last forever.

I always or at least every now and then thought that life is worthless. That whatever we do is meaning less. Its all to go in vain. Because after all when we r dead nothing matters. And when we are living, we crib about everything that we have with us and around us. I see the thoughts of a common man. And with my perspective, i find his troubles futile. Sometimes I feel too saintly. Well, then whats the goal of life. I think Life has no goals. We are literally not sent for any purpose by God. I donno the reasons how we enter into this world to have this complicated thought process, and if I start discussing about what I feel about all that I guess the entire blog space will exhaust. I would just try and confine myself to a particular thought of goal of life.

The guy who I met through internet, was an amazing person. Actually he was quite like me. He never enjoyed partying, and stuffs like that, but he sure did enjoy his life(the time he is having to live). What I learned from him was cohering with my thought process.
See according to me, life is futile and there is no purpose of living. But I am compelled to live in all that happy and sorrow moments until  I am dead. I don't really like to be sorrow full. So why not live happily. Why not just make each moment worth of something. My thoughts, already have the potential to discard negativeness. And when there is no negativeness, all I have is neutrality and positivity. Both of which could make me and people around me happier. And therefore I will live happily which I like to do. Nothing else matters.. right!
Actually not only this trying new stuffs may lead me to troubles, but then those troubles dont bring me sorrow, They just bring troubles, which are problems, and I can spend time of my life finding solutions to them. Hence I will always be engaged in it, and not in stuffs which will make me sorrow full. I like this concept. I have much more to add, but I needa go right now!

I hope to see your comments and your remarks over my thoughts, and I would also like to read your thoughts.

Take good care of your time
ciao

the dream in reality

one night, like graphite,
dabbed in the moonlight
I was born,
born to the real life

the thought was beautiful
it made life cheerful,
and i was the reason
for the passion

I was the dream,
the reason for someone's being
in my naivete,
they were happy

huh! and they tried to realize
That was the day
which destroyed
my piousness , my truth, my reality

And so they had to pay.
They said,
I was meant to be true.
they should have known,

dream is not the truth.
I feel pity on the beings

each day was their day to suffer
they should have not bourne
into tht path to savor
I was where I was meant to be

should I laugh?
should I cry?
I dont want them to try
I know it is all futile
why can't they live in the happiness
of the pie in the sky?

And days passed
they continued
I dont understand ,
what strengthened their hopes

I wanted to explain,
I was meant to be dreamt
not to be wasted
in the acts of those imprudents

What!
does it look like this when am alive
they have given me the life
I have witnessed their troubles
they did it for me
and finally landed to this reality

should I laugh?
should I cry?
I never wanted them to try
but now I want to lie

and to recognize
That i exist in the light
I wanted to destroy
the faith which I
never wanted to descry

Dreams can live in reality
and I have come out of my anxiety.

Show life ..U r living!

Living through the maladies
Surviving those tragedies
Will give you the confidence
To realize your fantasies

Whether its love,lust or desire
whether its passion,obsession or fire
If u made it through to the end
You know,the way to acquire.

If maladies didnt stop u
If the tragedies wer'nt enuf to pause u,
U have crossed baby
the toughest ring of fire
And so I assure U,
U'r the one,made to play the lyre

Make life to sing ur song,
because it must be proud
to whom it belong.

I dont write about realitic things??

People write about nation, world , politics , sports, and all the "knowledgeable things"that can be , and I soemtimes think tht i dont have enough prowess to share my viewpoint on those topics.
I somehow find these topics to be immensely boring,not in the sense that they are boringin their existence But I find their discussion to be immensely boring.sometimes I feel that I am above these topics, which might sound too egoistic of me but there is a reason to this belief.
I have lived in an enviroment where I was forced to understand the nature of poeple and to categorize them in some way.
It was a kind of political enviroment, and so I have kindof inheritedthe quality of observing people and understanding their nature , behaviour,faults and strongpoints, which leads me to have a larger view.
Mixed with my own nature, or the idiosyncrasy of my being ,and these experiences I find evrything happening around me to be very mundane.
I find a strange kinship with evrything.I feel that I know the nature of what's happeningand how is it happening, or what will it lead to.
I feel that evrything ultimately demonstrates the same nature, and hence the result, in some or the other way.This also provokes me to be calm , because ,even if for a particular moment of a being's behavoiur seems to be nasty or intolerable,I know that its not permanent, and I even have the notion of its cosequence.
In one of my article called "Development", I have written that I dont believe that the world has not developed.In fact I truly belive that world has developed and its develping to its core and would end up as a RAM RAJ.
The faith that I have manifested in the above paragraph, is quite akin to this article of mine.