When we grow older, we learn that it is important to respect
ourselves, and try not to mimic others.
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When we are young, our parents, in almost all families, ask
us to look at others like a neighbour’s son, a cousin, or an acquaintance and
behave and become like them. We grow up thinking we need to become like others.
And the whole life we spend doing that. We learn that our self, and we teach the
same to our children. But don’t you think doing that, clearly disrespects God’s
creation?
Everyone in this world is made unique, not for the purpose
of becoming like others and imitating them. We are made unique, because we all
have the potential to become the one that we all seek to become. But what we are taught when we are young, makes us crib for it our whole life, and waste life, in becoming like "them".
We don't need to become like others. Cultures which had set traditions, they had done so to maintain peace (peace brings happiness ) in the communities. But today, we have become smart enough to understand where our boundaries lie(because we have enough means to understand the lives and limitations of others). Our boundary lies only in one fact that we cannot make others as well ourselves unhappy. Rest all which happens in this world, all the rules that are set, are only set to make this motive accomplish. World peace, territory boundaries, terrorism, everyone who deals with these heavy topics have the same motto, to make people happy. But we don't generally do so. Gradually everything becomes complicated, because everyone deviates from their line of action(reason being that human mind wants to compete).
We don't need to become like others. Cultures which had set traditions, they had done so to maintain peace (peace brings happiness ) in the communities. But today, we have become smart enough to understand where our boundaries lie(because we have enough means to understand the lives and limitations of others). Our boundary lies only in one fact that we cannot make others as well ourselves unhappy. Rest all which happens in this world, all the rules that are set, are only set to make this motive accomplish. World peace, territory boundaries, terrorism, everyone who deals with these heavy topics have the same motto, to make people happy. But we don't generally do so. Gradually everything becomes complicated, because everyone deviates from their line of action(reason being that human mind wants to compete).
Life is easy, if just for once, you could keep the jealousy and the race to become like others aside.
I am saying this because I have felt it personally.
I often say I am quite saintly, often I think in a way which does not relate to world affairs, yet I am living in this world. Being saintly and having different line of thought, I am also often discarded from the world. When I was small, my mother once asked me to imagine what would happen if my fellow classmate and a friend of mine will score much more than I will do. She thought that imagining it, the jealousy that I will feel, will help me score more than him. I told my mother that I don't feel anything even if he scores more. My mother was terribly hurt that day, and she thought I would never do anything in my life. She thought that I do not have this competitiveness in me. When at the age of 9-10 I tried to explain to her, that I must compete with myself, and not others, she said I did not had the right to explain things to her cuz I was not as experienced.
After that day, this incident often realized in front of me. I often fell in situations where I really had to decide and feel the "jealousy", and to my surprise, I have never felt it yet. I donno is it due to my "competitive-lessness", or its due to any other reason which I could call as "wisdom". I concede to the fact that I have never excelled in everything I have done, the reason could very well be the lack of jealousy and competitiveness in my being. Whether you call it my excuse but I say that I have not excelled in those things because I never have liked them in order to break boundaries and work for that particular things.
But excelling in a thing could also differ depending on different perspectives. I wont go there, cuz, that's absolutely different topic to be talked about.
What I want to convey is, it is true and correct to be competitive, but if you could do that with yourself, life will become much more easy. Everyone will be at peace in their minds. These anger, stresses and feelings of loathes will expurgate from all minds and life will become easy to lead, which is what all of us seek.
We dont need to worry about how world will run, we only need to run ourselves flawlessly, and if we cant, we could at least try, cuz who knows, after a few generations possibly we could attain "RAM RAJ" the perfect world that we all seek.
I am not here to preach, but this is what I deeply feel. If anyone has the hesitation and starts thinking about the repercussions, I assure u that it is tough in the beginning, but it is where you will find your solace, and life will definitely become easy.It is my personal experience.
Respect yourself. Be the way you are. Identify what you like and what you want to be like(not like others but the unique one like yourself. It is possible). There's nothing wrong with you or what you do, cuz after you are dead nothing matters, and until you are living you can make things "matter" what you want to make "matter".
